Yes. Having someone present during your initial consultation can be a source of great support. You might ask your friend or family member to take notes on your behalf, so you can focus on listening and asking questions. Remember, however, that this is your consultation and it is important that the divorceRead more
Law has a language all its own, and attorneys sometimes lapse into “legalese,” forgetting that nonlawyers may not recognize words used daily in the practice of law. Some words and phrases you might hear include: Dissolution of marriage: The divorce Petitioner: Person who files the divorce petition Respondent: Person who did notRead more
Q & A: I’m afraid I can’t make it through court without having an emotional breakdown. How do I prepare?
Any hearing or trial can be highly emotional. You will need to draw on your support network. Additionally, some of these ideas may help you through the process: Meet with your lawyer before your court date, so she can prepare you for court. Ask your lawyer whether there are any documents youRead more
Q & A: I am still so angry at my spouse. How can I be expected to sit in the same room during a settlement conference?
If you are angry at your spouse, it may be beneficial to postpone the settlement conference for a time so that you can participate meaningfully in settlement negotiations. You might also consider seeking counseling to support you with coping with your anger. Another option is shuttle negotiations. With this method, you andRead more
Custody of the children may be held by both parents (joint custody) or by one parent (sole custody). Additionally, California distinguishes between physical and legal custody: If a parent has sole legal custody, that parent has the exclusive right and responsibility to make decisions about the health, education, and welfare of theRead more
Q & A: I’m afraid my spouse is going to drain our bank accounts and leave me with nothing. What can I do?
Upon the filing of a divorce action, the automatic temporary restraining orders (ATRos) immediately take effect. The purpose of the ATROs is to maintain the status quo, and to prevent either spouse from taking all the money out of the bank accounts, or disposing of other assets, while the divorce is pending.Read more
Nobody in our family has ever been divorced, and I feel really ashamed. Will my children feel the same way? Changing the way you see your family identity is huge for you. The best way to help your children is to establish a sense of pride in their new family, and toRead more
Regardless of whether you married a few months ago, a few years ago, or have been together for decades, you meant it when you said, “I do.” Like most people getting married, you planned to be in a happy relationship for life. You did not expect to get divorced. Life brings change,Read more
A protective order, also referred to in California as a domestic violence restraining order, is a type of restraining order that enjoins specific acts of abuse, excludes a person from a dwelling, or enjoins other specified behavior necessary to ensure that the orders preventing abuse are upheld. These orders can be issuedRead more
If your divorce attorney needs information about your marriage, it is important to communicate that information, even if you find it embarrassing. You are not mandated to disclose any information, but if you withhold information from your attorney, then he or she cannot adequately counsel you or prepare your case based uponRead more