Yes. Having someone present during your initial consultation can be a source of great support. You might ask your friend or family member to take notes on your behalf, so you can focus on listening and asking questions. Remember, however, that this is your consultation and it is important that the divorce attorney hears…
Law has a language all its own, and attorneys sometimes lapse into “legalese,” forgetting that nonlawyers may not recognize words used daily in the practice of law. Some words and phrases you might hear include: Dissolution of marriage: The divorce Petitioner: Person who files the divorce petition Respondent: Person who did not file the…
Any hearing or trial can be highly emotional. You will need to draw on your support network. Additionally, some of these ideas may help you through the process: Meet with your lawyer before your court date, so she can prepare you for court. Ask your lawyer whether there are any documents you should review…
If you are angry at your spouse, it may be beneficial to postpone the settlement conference for a time so that you can participate meaningfully in settlement negotiations. You might also consider seeking counseling to support you with coping with your anger. Another option is shuttle negotiations. With this method, you and your attorney…
Nobody in our family has ever been divorced, and I feel really ashamed. Will my children feel the same way? Changing the way you see your family identity is huge for you. The best way to help your children is to establish a sense of pride in their new family, and to look forward…
Regardless of whether you married a few months ago, a few years ago, or have been together for decades, you meant it when you said, “I do.” Like most people getting married, you planned to be in a happy relationship for life. You did not expect to get divorced. Life brings change, notwithstanding your…
If your divorce attorney needs information about your marriage, it is important to communicate that information, even if you find it embarrassing. You are not mandated to disclose any information, but if you withhold information from your attorney, then he or she cannot adequately counsel you or prepare your case based upon that necessary…
An ex parte order is generally one made on an emergency basis. Notice is not necessarily required, and the judge often issues orders on the paperwork submitted alone, without a formal hearing. With the exception of abuse-prevention restraining orders, judges are reluctant to grant ex parte orders. Ordinarily, the court will require the other…
Q. I’m unsure about how to tell our children about the divorce, and I am worried I’ll say the wrong thing. What is the best way? A. The manner in which you talk to your children about the divorce will depend on their ages and developmental stages. There is no one best way, although…
If you’ve ever held a conversation with the opposite sex and found yourself muttering the phrase, “you just don’t get what I’m saying,” you’re not alone. That’s because, whether you realize it or not, men and women have very different ways of communicating — much to the frustration of the opposite sex. You may…
